Monday, June 20, 2011

Sad News

I should have known better and really I did. Maniacs don’t miss a thing. I’ve been quiet lately, not online as much, moving back and forth between Georgia and Florida. Although you guys are the most incredibly thoughtful people I’ve ever known (I mean, really, over 2,000 copies of Shadowfever were leaked nearly a month before the release date, and not one of you ruined it for anyone else!) it was inevitable that someone would start asking questions, and someone would answer, and then someone would post wanting to know if it was true.

Last night someone posted, which we promptly removed. And I knew time had run out, I had to address it, even if it was painful and I didn’t want to talk about it, because someone else would and then you would all feel…well, I don’t know what you’ll feel but I hope you understand this is a difficult time for me, which is why I kept it private. I need to deal with my private life privately before I deal with it publicly. (It’s also why you haven’t gotten the promised scene yet. My life has been jarring and transient. Moonie and I are in an unfurnished house with a blow-up bed and JZB doesn’t do airbeds. He says they pop too easily.)

Ah, seeking refuge in humor, JZB would mock. Neil and I have gotten divorced. For those of you who saw us together at FEVERCON or some other function, and commented on how much we love each other, we do. But we needed to go different ways and there you are, and that’s all I have to say about it. Other than this: it’s sad, it’s painful, it’s hard. Be gentle.

I’m disorganized right now, but you’ll have your scene soon and more books coming soon, plus news about the graphic novel and some other wonderful things in the works.

Don’t be disheartened. We had wonderful years together. We’ll have wonderful years separately. Believe in love. I do.

66 comments:

JESSICA said...

o_O I'm very sorry, Karen! And don't worry, we'll wait as long as it's necessary :) We love you and we'll always support you no matter what happens. Stay strong, things will get better.

Danny said...

Forget about the scene! Your life is so much more important than this...

I wish you all the strength to get through this difficult time... I am sure love will come back to you!

We love you!

Amanda K. said...

You are incredibly brave to even put as much out there as you already have. My thoughts are with you in this difficult time. Barrons is nothing without you, you are what matters most to your fans. Don't ever doubt that.

Elishia said...

You are so strong, it inspires me. Barrons can wait, take time to yourself, you are what's important =)

Kymberli said...

My prayers and thoughts are with you...Karen you have been there for us with your writing. You create a world where we can take part in and escape. You give us hope and refuge with your books. I hope you can take strength and comfort from your fans now knowing that we are all behind you sending good wishes your way!

Don't worry about the POV... it will be worth the wait!

skittles said...

Just remember that you are loved.

and that's all that really matters in this world!

Ricki Jill Treleaven said...

I am so sorry that I have bothered you so much about writing more stories for us. Had I known, I wouldn't have. I apologize. We love you, Karen!

~the Treleaven girls

Libby Ann S. said...

Don't worry about us Karen. You focus on yourself, we love you and can wait for as long as you need us to. *hugs*

Michelle said...

This post broke my heart =(. I am so sorry! My thoughts are with you during this difficult time. Stay strong, love will find you again.

Jess (The Cozy Reader) said...

That is sad news. Here I thought you were going to say you have cancer or something near as awful (and life threatening!)but a divorce is surivable. I wish you well and hope your heart heals. I couldn't imagine getting divorced from my husband of almost 9 years. It would break me in half.

Lizzie Walker said...

Karen, take time to concentrate on the things you need to do for yourself. Our lives are a constant cycle of life, growth, death and rebirth.

Your fellow writers and fans support you, no matter what happens in your life personally.

Be well and hugs to you.

Victoria said...

Karen, I am so sad for you and wish you the best. Sending good vibes your way and if you need anything at all, we are here for you. I must admit I was completely stunned by the news, but I am sure all will work out for the better eventually. Just hang in there. *hugs*

Heather said...

I am so sorry Karen for what you are going through and also for careless people who post things before thinking of how it will affect others. I wish u well on your road to healing from this hurt. And know that we do not mind waiting as long as it takes for you put out another book. Your happiness and health are much more important to us.

MarnieColette said...

Here is a hug. If you need more ask.

Jess said...

It's so easy to forget that writers have personal lives and demand and demand.We'll wait for the scene,concentrate on your life right now and from my personal experience you'll need your people close until the ache fades.And it will fade in time,rest assured.Keep the good parts in your heart.You're gonna be fine!

Maren said...

I am so sorry :(
Please don't worry about US now, take the time you need to sort out your own life. The scene you promised doesn't matter.

I wish you the strength you need to get through this time. You are loved by so many people! *hug*

Robin K said...

Sending my heart to you both.

DoberDawn said...

Just keep looking for that opened window, Karen... you know there is one. Hang in there!

analisa said...

Oh God Karen, I wish I could hug you and comfort you and have something bright and smart to say to you to make you feel better ... yes you were a very special and talented couple, and together you created a very special and nsync combo of art, but the heart of it, the inspiration, the force of creation, it's always been you. At least that's how I perceive it. You'll deal with this, and you can ask everything you need from us. We'll give you time, space, and respect, because we love you so so much. (((Giant hug sent your way))) I love you. Be safe. Take care of yourself. We're here for you.

Fete said...

Take your time. Hugs.

Anonymous said...

Can't say anything that hasn't already been said. Take care of yourself and come back to us when you are ready. The faithful will always be waiting with open arms. *SNUGGLES*

~LYZZI~

Lynne said...

I am so very sorry Karen! We all know this is a very difficult time for you. We're here and are not going anywhere. Just remember to take time for yourself, and be very good to yourself!

Cay said...

Don't worry about us, we can wait, we love you and we all only want the best for you.
I can't begin to imagine how hard this time must be for you, but remember: You are loved, you are strong and with so many Moniacs scattered all over the world, you'll never be alone.

Blessings and stay strong!

Cay

redzsm said...

Shame on whoever posted your private info online. Please do not worry about your fans, take all the time you need. We will give you your space. Your an amazing & strong woman. You & your health are whats most inportant to us.

Thank you for all the joy your words have brought into my life.

Jillian said...

Karen, I'm so sorry to hear this. Stay strong and know that all your girls wish you the best. Your words have helped us through trying times, even if you didn't know it and hopefully ours can help you in yours. Take your time to heal. We'll be patient (and hey, anticipation makes it sweeter anyway ;) ).

We love you!

The Original Drama Mama said...

You are amazing for even taking a moment to explain to your readers what is going on - like you said, you need to deal with your private life in private. I value so much the respect and gracious appreciation you have always shown your fans - and I would expect nothing less than the same respect and gracious appreciation to be shown to you. I think it's great that you left us with the fact you still believe in love - that is powerful. And I commend you on the incredibly classy way you have described a situation that often pushes people to behave less than admirably. Have a glass of wine, read a good book and appreciate the things that get you through.

Carrow said...

Karen, my best wishes to you and Neil. I'm sorry you had to air your private business because someone didn't give you or your private life the respect it/you deserves. You are a strong, beautiful, confident, awesome, bad a** woman.

Anita said...

Wow, I am simply speechless. Just know that we are behind you every step of the way. We will be your army, cheering you on and standing behind you, always through this time. Right now, the only thing that matters is you, your life and health and heart and however you choose to deal with it or share it. Everything else can wait; we love you so much and I really wish I could give you a tremendous hug and provide a shoulder. Take care, Karen. We will be here when you are ready.

Jodie B. said...

My heart hurts for you. I'm sorry we can't shield you from the idiots of the world. Sometimes I think people don't realize how painful and destructive words can be.

Don't worry about the scene, take this time for you. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Adventure Spot said...

My heart goes out to you and Neil. As for the scene whenever you get it will be fine for the rest of us. We know you're going through a tough time and we will support you wholeheartedly. Just remember to keep your head above the water and that there are people who don't even know you personally but love you. :)

Leana said...

I agree with everyone else, you take care of yourself - we're your supporters first :-D

We love you Karen!!!
We love you Moonie!!!

**HUGS**

Cassandra said...

It must be so hard being in the public eye when you are going through something so personal.

Although we all love to hear from you via your books and blogs we totally understand that you need to spend time on you.

We love you and will still be here waiting when you ready to share your world with us again.

Tabea said...

We understand that & support you, Karen! Take your time, we'll wait (:
Greetings from Germany. We love u!

Jessica.G said...

Oh I'm so sorry Karen :(
Don't worry about the scene. Get yourself sorted first. JZB is patient...ok...no he isn't, but we are! It'll be worth the wait. Take your time.

Cory W. said...

Karen,

My heart goes out to you. ((hugs)) May you find comfort when you want it. Joy when you need it. May the wind always be at your back.

Wishing you the best of care,

Cory

DKN said...

You are a true lady. To be thinking of us through such a personal and sad time shows such a strength of character. Just know that through this dark time you literally have thousands of hands holding yours with love and admiration.

Anonymous said...

I appreciate your willingness to disclose such a personal and challenging event in your life. I'm sorry that it is hard to keep private things, well, private in today's world. However, as is apparent from all of the previous postings, it appears that your readers want to let you know that you have their support during this time of change and growth for you (and Tim). Best wishes for you along this new portion of your journey. Try to ignore the creases in the map - it never folds the same way twice.

Ellen said...

I am so sorry to hear about this. Barrons POV can wait until you are ready. Take care of yourself and do what you need to do to heal. Your fans love you. You are strong and you are surrounded by love.

Sharon said...

Best of luck to the both of you. Take you time, we are a patient lot

Joanna said...

Take care of yourself first. Everything else can wait. I'll be praying for you. Always remember that your fans adore and support you;)

Pedantic Phooka said...

A mantra that I repeated to myself for a year during my divorce:

The deeper my capacity for pain, the deeper my capacity for love.

These are not just words. See Newton's 3rd law of motion "To every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction."

Good luck to you during this difficult time. It will get easier - one day at a time.

Anonymous said...

You have ALWAYS thought of your fans first. Now, it's time for you to think of yourself FIRST! Your concern over all of us and the Barrons POV bit of writing, just goes to show what an amazing woman you are. To take the time to worry about us-amazing! I have always been floored by your writing, but your capacity to love your fans just put that to shame. You always put so much thought, time, and effort into your writing that I should not have been surprised that you would do the same for your fans when you are the one who needs OUR support.

I could totally care less about your writing and Barrons POV at this time.(Yes, I hear the gasps from some on this blog right now!)

YOU are the focus of my thoughts and all I care about is that you take time for YOURSELF! You are strong, you will get through this and you will take back your life and make it bigger and better. Love surrounds you and will always be waiting for you.

Thank you for being such a wonderful role model for women! You inspire me, not with your writing this time, but with the person you have shown yourself to be.

BAP

Anonymous said...

I think the Official JZB, our very own Jericho Barrons, has said it best already:
Change is the only constant we have in this life; stasis is rarely so permanent. This is not the end. This is the beginning.

Anonymous said...

Take care of yourself.
Sometimes writing needs to take a back seat to like. We understand that.

I wish you regular restoring nights of restful healing sleep.

*B* said...

I'm sorry to hear that :( Take care of yourself, (and get yourself a good bed.) Worry about us later.

We all love you

Deana said...

Sometimes life hands us this that are hard for us to go through. Please remember that you will get through this and you will be a better person because of it. Happy thought are with you!!!!

Deana

Gwen said...

Wishing you both all the best! Take care, this too shall pass.

Rhonda said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you in your difficult time. Take your time to heal knowing that your fans love you and wish you the best!!

Rebecca said...

sending hugs your way!

Janet said...

I wish you strength in this difficult period. Been there too, so with some experience I can say it will get better ....

Vanora said...

Take care of yourself first and foremost! My heart is with you on all of this and yes we will wait! Life comes first and you need to make sure you are back on track with yourself before you try to put any pen to paper (well, fingers to keyboard). Please don't feel you need to rush yourself on our accounts we've waited before and this is more important than writing right now. I hope you start to feel better soon!

We less than three you!

jubes / jubilee said...

Awwww Karen BIG HUGS. We all love and adore you. We don't really care how long it takes for you to deal with your personal matters, as long as you're living life the way you want to, and you're happy.

Please let us know if there's anything we can do to help you.

I think I'll be an optimistic fool forever and believe in love =)

Lisa Forget said...

You have brought so much joy to us - your Moning Maniacs. We love your words, your heart, your imagination and we are all there for you.
You are in our thoughts and in our prayers.
A giant hug from your ardant fan,
Lisa aka BookFever

Kim said...

Karen, I am so sorry for your pain and sadness. You have brought so much to those of us who have so enjoyed being a part of your world.

My thoughts and prayers are with you for peace, strength and healing.

Take care of you. You are loved.

Sara said...

I'm so sorry to hear that, Karen! (((Sympathy and Hugs))) to you. Stay strong and take as much time as you need to heal!

Jasmine Walt said...

You and I may not really know each other, but I believe that you have the strength to get through this. You'll be back on your feet in no time, and you'll continue to have love and laughter in your life despite all this.

maxadriane said...

Thinking of you.

Bev said...

Dear Karen:

I was recently referred to the Fever Series by a good friend and I read all the books within a week (Hilander Series is next!). I've fallen irrevocably in love with your characters and when I grow up as an author, I want to be you.

My passion for writing has become intense enough that my husband complains incessantly about it. I gave it up once when our children were young, but never again. It is something that I have to do.

Here's wishing you all the strength to get through this difficult personal time for you. I look forward to writing because I am compelled to do so, and never giving it up unless it is my choice.

Can't wait to read something new from you soon.

B.

Angela said...

I'm sorry someone had to butt into your personal life like that. I think sometimes people forget that just because they see the person publically and love their work doesn't mean they have a right to invade their personal life as well.
Divorce is a very difficult thing to go through even when it's one of the quieter divorces. In some ways it's harder that way. I hope you take time to recover before you worry about us. We're impatient, yes, but we'll wait.

melissa said...

i am so very sorry for you... god bless you both in this time i hope you come out of it stonger

smitha p said...

oh karen. i am so sorry. I just read this. hmm it must be painful. hope you are feeling better. healing your self. wishing you all the strength and courage to get thru these trying times. :)

Kalea Wavedancer said...

Take time to heal, gather yourself back together, and enjoy the small things in life for awhile. We'll still be here when the muses have returned. Any artist knows that we feel things much deeper than we'd like to admit, so wallow, but remember to look to the light ;)

Susan Darlington said...

The circumstances may be different but I understand your pain. Watching a part of your life fade away is difficult and devastating, but like many others have said....you are LOVED! You bring joy to millions and we all adore you. We are all here for you in any capacity you need.

Just remember, Chin up and keep moving forward...everyday it will get easier and I promise you will feel that spark again. There is someone out there meant to be yours. Someone who will love you to distraction, who will only feel whole with you by his side. It took me awhile but I found it and I promise you will to.

Unknown said...

I read your books...I don't comment. I click 'like' a lot though.

You're strong. Your characters tell us you are. You'll get where you need to be and do it in style. You'll be fine. It takes time....it did for me. But one day you'll look up and smile....because you know you're doing fine.

Thank you for your stories and characters. My highlander copies are threadbare from repeated visits. I truly enjoy these worlds you've created. Thank you.

Alejandra said...

Loved your final sentence:
"Believe in love, I do"
Even in these hard times you live in, you give us hope for us as well...
God bless and be with you!
Take permission to think about you and not to worry about giving us anything ... you have given us a lot already!

Jen Greyson | Author said...

It's been almost 6 year since my divorce, yet those days are burned in my memory. Divorce must be mourned, and given the respect any other death deserves. There is beauty and peace on the other side of what sometime seems uncertain.

I'm chiming in a bit late here...so you're probably already regaining your footing...and if not, that's ok too, but I wanted to thank you for sharing this very personal experience.

Wishing you light, and hope, love, and healing.
With support - and understanding - and patience (I can always use another reason to re-read the first 5 books :)

Jen

BTW, You're a brilliant writer, and I aspire to create the worlds you do.